To me, responsibility is a big word. It's like a dividing point of children and adults. Some people have the look of a child but really matured mind. How do we tell? Well, they can take their own responsibility.
When we were young, we let our parents take care of everything, whether it's the money for lunch, or the food supply like breakfast. We didn't have to worry about anything but, say, our grades. For all other things, our parents take good care of it.
As we grew older, we started facing more problems and not all of them can be taken care by our beloved parents. We faced problems like finishing homework, judging who's the good friend, and/or how to get a boy/girl friend. When one problem comes up, there are usually more waiting in line just to screw you over. We have to deal them one by one or once for all. No matter how we deal with them, we HAVE to deal with them. The problems won't disappear when we run away, and not to say we usually can't run away.
People, we all know that running away from problems does not help, and we all should know that
KICKING THE PROBLEMS TO SOMEONE ELSE DOES NOT HELP, EITHER.
It is quite common to hear someone's saying: it's not my fault. It's his/her problem. Come on! Is it really? Okay, I should be too black and white. It is true that sometimes it's really not someone's problem, but for most of time it does involve the person who says that, even just a little.
Does making someone else the one to blame really helps? Yes, it might take away the blame you deserve, but ultimately it does not help the condition you are in. If you didn't finish the homework, you are still not done with it even if you say: "Jon asks me to play with him so I have to go," or "I have other stuff to do so I don't have time." Children do that, and you should NOT do it if you think you are qualified as an adult.
When we enter college, we find ourselves in situations when we have to work together very often. Do we want to work as a team or several individuals? Can we work as a giant, efficient machine with all parts together or just different parts that do not fit? Face it people. Playing hot potato does not help.
I'm writing this article right now because of some people, and you know I'm talking about you. However, I do wanna ask everyone who's reading this to be respnsible. I've heard this line from Crayon Shin-Jan: "If you see yourself walking toward a rocky road, choose another one that's not rocky." True, it is supposed to be a joke, but it does make some sense in a point of view. If you are not ready for the rocky road, choose a flatter one. If you are not ready for this job, don't take it as if you are. If you do that, you will find yourself in a much worse situation than not taking it. True, we have to learn to face challenges, but we also have to learn to judge the situations. Sometimes there are things we are not capable of or not capable of yet. It's really important to learn this kind of judgement.
So what if you don't have a good judgement and find yourself in that much worse situation I was talking about? Well, you finish the job, no matter how hard it is. Quitting is for losers, and it causes so much trouble for other people. This is EXTREMELY important when you are the LEADER.
A leader is the head of the team. He has to come up with a plan and guide the members of the group to success. A good leader knows what's good and can figure out a plan from all members' suggestions. He can also handle the pressure and blames when he has to, and he has to be able to control the group. If you are a leader, especially when you are elected to be a leader, wear your armor and prepare to handle all the pressure and blames. It is your responsibility and your job. You are not elected to be a leader because you are cool or funny or whatever. You are elected because people think you can do all things listed above. If you think a problem is too hard to handle and just run away, what kind of leader are you? And do you know how much trouble other people have to deal with because of your lameness?
Please, be responsible. It is very important not just now but also in the future. If your boss thinks that you are not responsible, how can he give you the important job? When things don't go as you planned, bite the bullet and move on!! Deal with it!! You are adults now, and running away doesn't help!!!!
Again, people, please take your own responsibility.
p.s. Sorry for the bad grammar and jumping thoughts, I'm jsut writing down whatever comes out of my mind.
well said, well said..
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